- Who’s Funding You?
- I’m Not Falling For It. What Big Industry Are You Shills For?
- Why Don’t You Publish More Frequently?
- You Guys Aren’t Scientists or Doctors. Why Should I Take Your Advice?
- Are You Parenting Experts or Something?
- Do You Think You’re Smarter Than the Rest of Us?
- Do You Think That Science Has All the Answers?
- What’s Your Angle? Are You Attachment Parents, Skeptics, Free-Range Parents or Something?
- So About That Perfect Child, If I Follow The Information Provided on This Site I’ll Get The Perfect Child, Right?
- If I Don’t Follow The Information Provided On This Site, Do You Think I’m A Bad Parent?
- I Already Know About Everything On Your Website, So What’s The Point?
- I Need More Information on _____________, But You Don’t Have
- Anything on Your Site About It.
- I Read Your Post on ___________ and You Got It Completely Wrong.
- I Have An Idea That I’d Like to Submit As A Post.
- I Posted a Comment and it Didn’t Show Up/Got Deleted. What’s Up With That?
- One of Your Guest Authors Was A Jerk on Twitter or Another Blog. How Can You Support Them?!
- If you don’t shame parents that [insert objectionable behavior] then you are as bad as they are.
- We’re all adults here, so why do you use ‘bleep’ in place of an actual curse word?
Who’s Funding You?
Leslie is solely responsible for keeping the lights on at TheScientificParent.org out of her own pockets. We don’t accept solicited advertising or and we don’t do sponsored posts. However, that doesn’t mean that Leslie is independently wealthy! After 18 months of operation the costs associated with running the site outstripped Leslie’s ability to fund it and she began accepting ads after receiving feedback from the readers. More information about this process and decision can be found here and here. We have never been paid for a post, and we currently cannot offer our contributors compensation for their articles.
Why Don’t You Publish More Frequently?
Ah, that’s a good question. With one foot in academia and another in journalism, we’re well aware of the pressure to publish first and make corrections later. There’s a lot at stake when it comes to our kids, so we’d rather publish later and get it right, than publish first and get it wrong. Additionally, Leslie and Leah have day jobs and families, so do our contributors, which all compete with our unpaid work on TheScientificParent.org for attention.
You Guys Aren’t Scientists or Doctors. Why Should I Take Your Advice?
Ignore us – please! No, seriously. We don’t think you should take medical advice from strangers on the internet, including us. Any health decisions you make for you, your family, or your child should be made exclusively between your and your physician. We’d encourage you to not listen to us at all and consult your doctor instead. The information that we provide can only serve to support that conversation with your medical team.
Are You Parenting Experts or Something?
Heck no! We think it takes a lot of education, experience and brass balls to call yourself a parenting expert. Each of the specialists who write for us have expertise in very specific areas, some of which are directly related to parenting. But even they aren’t parenting experts. To be an expert in all areas of parenting, you’d have to be some sort of wizard or unicorn. Since we know how rare those can be, and we’re but simple muggles here, we believe very few people that can legitimately hold themselves out as one. Especially us.
Do You Think You’re Smarter Than the Rest of Us?
Nope. We actually think you’re pretty smart. Life forces all of us to become experts in areas where we are distinctly not experts, and we know that you, like us, are doing the best you can with the tools you have.
Do You Think That Science Has All the Answers?
Absolutely not, but we do think that science can provide parents with guide-posts along the way. Since there aren’t absolutes in parenting, you should find the way that works best for your family. We believe that having access to up-to-date, evidence-based information can help you do that.
What’s Your Angle? Are You Attachment Parents, Skeptics, Free-Range Parents or Something?
We very specifically do not identify with any parenting philosophy or movement. In our opinion, philosophies that claim to know how to raise a perfect child, belittle parents, guilt parents or inaccurately weight certain studies aren’t supportive of parents or kids. Some of the data presented on this site by an expert might align with one or more aspects of a parenting philosophy, but that’s about it. We’re pro-parent, and pro-kid.
So About That Perfect Child, If I Follow The Information Provided on This Site I’ll Get The Perfect Child, Right?
We’re running out of ways to say “no” on this page, but the answer to this is also no. We don’t think perfection exists when it comes to people (except maybe Ryan Gosling. He’s pretty bleeping close to perfection). We hope the information on this site can point you in the right direction if you have questions and offer resources if you feel like you need them.
If I Don’t Follow The Information Provided On This Site, Do You Think I’m A Bad Parent?
We’re not here to judge or call parents good or bad. Labels are for things, like our favorite bottles of wine – but not for people! If you’re looking for health and parenting information on the internet, chances are that you’re a pretty good parent and care for your kids a whole lot. Life is all about risk and certainty, or the lack thereof, and parenting is no different! Science can tell us a lot about risk reduction, so we hope each of you can use this site to help educate yourselves about legitimate risks of an action or inaction, and talk it over with your licensed health care provider.
I Need More Information on _____________, But You Don’t Have Anything on Your Site About It.
We work hard to stay up-to-date on topic areas that are relevant for our readers, but we count on your voices to tell us what’s important to you. If there’s a topic that you think is missing, underrepresented, or would be useful for us to cover, please let us know by emailing with your suggestions to firstname.lastname@example.org.
I Read Your Post on ___________ and You Got It Completely Wrong.
Huh, we’re sorry about that. We research the heck out of everything we post, but it’s completely possible we got something wrong. Check out our Did We Get It Wrong? section and submit a correction.
I Have An Idea That I’d Like to Submit As A Post.
That’s great! We’re always interested in new information and perspectives to add to the conversation. Take a look at our Write For The Scientific Parent page and submit your idea!
I Posted a Comment and it Didn’t Show Up/Got Deleted. What’s Up With That?
Though the internet is 24/7, TheScientificParent.org Team is not. Comments posted to our blog are approved before posting, so please be patient during the turnaround time,as we may not be reviewing comments on the same timeline that they’re submitted. As for deleted items, please review our comment policy.
One of Your Guest Authors Was A Jerk on Twitter or Another Blog. How Can You Support Them?!
Yikes! We’re sorry to hear that. We seek out our subject matter experts based on their professional and parental credentials. We very specifically try not to be jerks and one of the guidelines our guest authors must follow on our turf is Wheaton’s Law. We’re sorry for that negative experience elsewhere, though that doesn’t necessarily mean that what they said here doesn’t have value. You can let us know if you have a problem, or observed an issue with one of our guest authors by emailing contact@TheScientificParent.org so we can look into it.
If you don’t shame parents that [insert objectionable behavior] then you are as bad as they are. Telling someone how wrong and stupid they are, is the only way to get them to change their behavior.
We’re going to have to disagree with you here. The communication science is pretty clear that people tend to change their behavior when they feel heard, empathized with and supported. The science of how to get someone to change their behavior is incredibly nuanced, but we know that shame, especially public shame, only drives the person away from the desired behavior. We think it doesn’t matter if you’re right if you alienate your audience.
Parents that haven’t followed established AAP or CDC guidelines need to be supported in order to change their behavior, instead of derided for having ignored them. We think they love their kids very much, but there may have been barriers in their way (such as fear, understanding, social norms and simply operationalizing the behavior) that need to be acknowledged and addressed.
We think that shame and ridicule makes parents afraid to ask the important questions and forces them to rely on sources that may not be trustworthy or accurate. So even though we might not agree with a behavior that a parent undertakes, we want them to feel safe to ask the question.
Why do you use “bleep” instead of the actual curse word? We’re all adults here.
Funny you should ask that. We like to keep the tone of our posts informal, letting scientists show their more human side. Scientists and health professionals have been known to drop the odd f-bomb when they’re off the clock, and probably plenty more while they’re on the clock. Work can be stressful. However, lots of firewalls look out for things like bad language. To get around this we decided to use the word “bleep” in place of an expletive. You’re very bleeping welcome.
The information found on The Scientific Parent is not a substitute for the care and knowledge provided to you by your physician or board certified primary care provider. It is crucial to talk with your qualified health care provider about any questions or concerns you may have about a medical condition or treatment plan. Always talk with your qualified health care provider before you discontinue or start a new treatment plan.