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I Want Data: Pregnancy When You Have A Rare(ish) Disease

By February 29, 2016 No Comments
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“Can’t you just look at the monitor and tell me when to push?” I asked my nurse. “I feel like I need more data to tell me whether or not I’m getting any closer to having this baby.”

I had been pushing for more than three hours and the epidural left me with little physical data about how my contractions were progressing. After what seemed like an eternity, my nurse looked at me and said “How’s this for data?” She then picked up the intercom and announced “Delivery Room 3.” Soon a sea of medical personnel showed up to help deliver my baby.

As a scientist, I like to have information. This was especially true when I was in active labor, but my quest for data on pregnancy and childbirth actually started about a year earlier. My husband and I are both scientists, so we tend to approach things systematically and with data in hand. So when we decided it was time to start a family, I started to look for information.

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Categories: Chronic Illnesses + Conditions, Pregnancy, Birth + Family Planning

The Stats are Stacked Against Military Families During Holidays – But These 5 Tips Can Help.

By December 16, 2015 No Comments
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The holiday season is upon us – and for my military family, we’re feeling the impact this year. For our tight-knit family, the holidays mean a moment to relax, unwind, and reconnect with each other, days to dine together, and opportunities to learn family history and stories from one another. These are days in which new family memories are made – and they are simply amazing. But this year, we’re not together. Our loved ones are living in a place that we consider home, some 2,907 miles away!

It’s not easy for us, but it never is. Throughout the year during deployments, families like mine sacrifice time with their military family member, which in my case is my husband. We sacrifice our peace of mind knowing someone we love works in a dangerous occupation. And as part of our commitment to the military, we also sacrifice friendships and closeness with our communities and extended families, plus a stable and consistent home life, each time we move across the country to a new base assignment.

These psychological and emotional stresses, while common for military families (and for many others living many miles away from loved ones) seem to be magnified during the holiday season, since they are times meant to be celebrated with close friends and family.

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Categories: Mental, Emotional, + Behavioral Health

Science Fair Projects: Lessons in Parental Torture

By December 9, 2015 2 Comments
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I was a science fair nerd from the 3rd to 10th grade, so I can say with certainty that I put my parents through seven years of unabridged science fair hell. Parents who are working on those projects now, can you imagine? Seven years of what you’re doing right now?

Hopefully this post offers you some solace, because your cursing of the science-fair-powers-that-be is not unique. In fact, I’ve been watching science fair rage trickle across my social media feeds all week, and hearing about it for decades (from, ahem…my mom). So if you’re one of these frustrated parents, just know that you’re not alone. There are many, many others trying to guide their children to success on this required and often exhausting homework project.

I do have mixed feelings about science fairs, because as a student I loved learning about science through my participation in the fair. However, I should be clear: that only happened AFTER I was being guided by actual scientists for my projects. We’ll get to that in a moment.

What you should know is that the frustration you’re feeling as a parent (or are about to feel) is normal and officially generations old. Parents or not, most of us understand this feeling since we also remember what it was like as kids to put these projects together. I’m going to go out on a limb here and hypothesize (oh-ho-ho!) that the whole process was nearly as ridiculous then, as it is today.

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Categories: School-Aged Children, Tweens + Teens

Helping Kids Welcome a New Baby

By October 20, 2015 No Comments
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Three of the people I love the most and am closest to are my brother and sisters. I’m always happy to see them and, like the best old friends, we can catch up with each other’s news in a moment. These relationships are not an accident, however. They are the result of our parents’ efforts over the course of all of our lives to remind us that these, our siblings, are people we can count on. This work starts the minute a child learns that they are about to become an older sister or brother.

For a child under the age of four, it is not always clear where the baby is coming from and so it does help to demonstrate that the baby grows inside their mother. Many parenting guides recommend having a child come to some prenatal visits and some obstetricians, family doctors, and midwives include a visit for the whole family as part of their standard prenatal care. In fact, it is no longer unusual for older siblings to be present for a birth, especially when a child is being born at home.

The most important thing a child needs to know when they are expecting a sibling is that they are going to continue to be an important part of the family and that no new baby will ever replace them. This is a good time to reinforce a child’s gifts and special qualities. It is also an important time to remind a child of their ongoing importance by sharing pictures and memories of them through all stages of their lives.

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Categories: Ages + Stages, Mental, Emotional, + Behavioral Health, Newborns + Infants, Pregnancy, Birth + Family Planning, School-Aged Children, Toddlers + Preschoolers, Tweens + Teens

Surviving Your Family Summer Vacation: Your Parental Permission Slip

By August 9, 2015 No Comments
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It’s been 6 days since I’ve slept in my bed and over a week since I’ve had any time to myself uninterrupted. Not a huge deal really, but for you fellow introverts and creatures of comfort like myself, you probably understand me when I say that I’m in the “wits end” zone of wanting to willfully play dead when the kids or my fiance approach me to socialize. No more socializing! No! I need a vacation to recover from this vacation!

Here’s the thing about family time for me. I LOVE my family. And my family also drives me crazy at times as families do on vacations all together, especially on vacations in remote places because we invade each other’s space and do a lot of activities together. That applies to my family of origin and the one I’m in the process of creating.  Add on the fact that this new family of mine includes a man and two teenage boys who already have their own collective patterns and quirks and habits (read: manly behaviors), and it’s a recipe for a woman like me wanting to barricade myself in my vacation bedroom on day two with the furniture and wave a flag above it all like Jean Val Jean in the Broadway finale of Les Miserables. Do you hear the Julia sing? It is the song of cranky men! 

So let me summarize so I can get us to the point: Introvert. 3 members of the male species. 4 flights, 10 hours of flying, 10 hours of driving, remote cabin in the Wisconsin woods. Nervous about meeting my future mother-in-law for the first time and staying in her home. Surprise revival of hayfever. Ah-choo.

Survival for me in this case was pretty simple if I chose to be literal.

Step 1: Don’t die.

Step 2: Return home.

Since that was clearly not enough for the quality of life I preferred for this trip, I discovered a few sanity savers along the way. These things, like my To-Don’t List, are obvious when you think about them but something I’m going to articulate here to both remind you of them, and also to give you explicit permission to do this on summer vacation with your kids. Why? Why not, I say! So consider this your parental permission slip for:

  1. Saying no. Legitimately. Unabashedly saying no and not getting twisted over how upset anyone might get for it. Sad faces because I won’t do something? Ok. Sad faces then. That’s life, right? That might sound cruel on first read, but also consider that being miserable and going along with things is obvious to those around you, especially with kids who can smell a phony a mile a way. They notice when you’re maxed out or agitated even if you think you’re hiding it brilliantly, and oftentimes they internalize your emotions to mean something about themselves. I know I did as a child.Our youngest always gives me lots of hugs when he knows I’m getting tired or frustrated, and asks me what’s wrong – and that keeps me authentic and in the moment, checking in with my own feelings. For more on this, refer to my earlier post on the To-Don’t List. No means no, it doesn’t mean you’re being a jerk. Example: No, I don’t want to chop logs. Have fun though! Nope! I don’t like wolf spiders the size of my head! I don’t want to see it! Bad or wrong? Nope.
  2. Skipping traditions that precede you if they’re really not your thing. It’s ok to participate in what traditions you want to do, and choose to skip what you don’t. The guys went into town for a candy run at a place with the best cashew brittle I’ve ever had. They chopped down trees and built fires. They did their annual man-bonding fix-it work in loud voices while I took a page out of the family matriarch’s book.
    Our gorgeous view while fishing.

    Our gorgeous view while fishing.

    I stayed home with my future mama-in-law and enjoyed our own quiet time together. The sparkly silver lining? She is an introvert too so we had a great time connecting, reading, relaxing at will in harmony with one another. Later we all took a power boat out on the lake and had a blast, and even did some fishing. Plus, I caught a fish, apologized to it and let it go (I didn’t have the heart to kill it and eat it).  A new tradition to add to the pile! The boys were thrilled.

  3. Setting some ground rules with your partner. This is particularly important for situations with stepkids, but try to set some parameters that allow you to connect with your partners’ family in a natural way, or allow you the space to bond with your family or family of origin in these situations in a way that works for you. Reminder: you’re an individual and decide what works best for your needs, and if you don’t speak up, no one can support you. To get ahead of roadblocks, the fiance and I sat and discussed a couple of basics that we stuck closely to this week: this trip would be a complaining-free zone (ahem, teenagers), everyone would do their same chores as they do at home (us included), and we would balance our time between kid-focused activities and grandparent-focused activities. Not too scheduled, not too lax. The only thing I’d recommend is adding in some couple time too – that’s one thing we didn’t do. Next time we’ll be better prepared and go out on our own.

I’m pretty simple to please on vacation – I love my quiet time and I need a mix of activity and some reading and writing every day to stay content. I’m guessing you probably can dig around and think of exactly what would make you happy to do for a week with the family, too, regardless of where, when, and whom is involved.

What are your essential needs and how can you make them happen within your trip parameters? Often it’s easier than we think – we just tend to create self-imposed limits with thoughts of we “should do this” or we “have to do that.” That’s the anthem of any parent who is trying their best, really. But without the shoulds and have-tos, what would you do? Aim for that the best you can and cut yourself some slack along the way. After all, it IS vacation, and you deserve time to both enjoy yourself and the people around you.

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Categories: Mental, Emotional, + Behavioral Health

Parents Matter. We Need to Stop Telling Them They Don’t.

By July 30, 2015 2 Comments
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At my 22-week checkup my Obstetrician had a frank discussion with me about “how I’m doing.” This wasn’t a discussion I ever had with my previous OB during my first pregnancy so I was a little surprised when it happened.

Before having been pregnant, I had expectations of loving the experience. Friends had said the time had some “uncomfortable” aspects, but that they felt better, healthier, and more in touch with their bodies during pregnancy. Meanwhile I was all of eight weeks pregnant with my first when I sobbed to my husband, “I don’t know if I can do this for another seven months!”

I went into this pregnancy expecting it to be different.  I knew what to expect this time and how to work around it, or so I thought.  And while the first few weeks were much better than my first pregnancy, I soon experienced terrible morning sickness that lasted until week 17 and have never really bounced back from it.

So, when my OB asked me how I was doing my response was, “I’m pregnant. I’ve been better.”

He broke the news to me that I was anemic, which didn’t shock me as anemia runs in my family. “So, iron supplements?” I asked, thinking this would be a simple solution. He said yes, but he also wanted me to take vitamin C and take care of myself because he could tell I wasn’t. How could he tell I wasn’t taking care of myself? I was showered, my hair was combed, I had on clean clothes, I was gaining weight, my prenatal tests were all normal.

What I realize now is that he was trying to tell me that I looked like I’d been hit in the face with a frying pan, and while I wasn’t aware of it at the time, I felt like I had too. He ordered that I get more sleep, eat healthier, and that my in-laws take my son for the weekend so I could fully rest. He even offered to write the last order down on a prescription pad.

Our conversation completely threw me. It was not a conversation I was expecting to have with my OB and for sure one I hadn’t come prepared to have that day.  I thought I had been taking care of myself. I took my prenatal vitamins, I was going to the gym whenever I could, and I was sleeping better than I had in my first pregnancy. My husband had taken on a huge chunk of the child care and housework, and my in-laws even watched my toddler son once a week, sometimes twice.

I told him that I had a lot more help than many women do. His response was that having help wasn’t the same as having enough help.

How Leslie usually spends her evenings.

How Leslie usually spends her evenings.

He asked me what I thought at the time were a series of unrelated questions.  What did I usually eat for breakfast? If I got breakfast it was usually a granola bar. How often did I eat? Three times a day, usually a snack before bed. What did I eat for dinner? Lean protein. What did I do when my in-laws took my son? Client work. Why was I still doing cardio at the gym despite ligament pain? It was best for the baby. How often did I wake up at night? How many fingers do you have? How was my energy level? I’m pregnant, I’m tired all the time. Did I ever have dizzy spells? Yes, a few times a day but I’m pregnant, that’s par for the course. When was the last time I did something for myself like take a long bath, read a book or have dinner with friends? I’m a parent and pregnant again, those aren’t things I have time for.

His words rung in my head as he said them, “pregnancy is not just about the baby. You matter too.”

During my first pregnancy when I’d brought up complaints of feeling excessively tired or not having the capacity to eat as healthily as I’d like, my previous OB’s response was that pregnancy was hard, nothing was out of the ordinary, and it was all about doing what was necessary to have a healthy baby at the end. After my son was born, family joked, “nobody cares about you now, we’re all here for the baby.” It took a week for my milk to come in and in the hospital when I fed my hungry son some formula to supplement what I couldn’t produce, a nurse admonished me, “you’re doing what’s easiest for you, not what’s best for him.”

The message was clear: You don’t matter.

I didn’t realize how closely I’d taken that message to heart until my new OB pointed out that much of what I’d categorized as taking care of myself was actually taking care of others.

I held back tears long enough to get out of the office and into my car, and bawled the entire way home. A blubbering mess, I arrived home to a very confused but concerned husband.

“But it’s just anemia, you can take a pill for it, right?” he asked,

“It’s so much more than that!” I sobbed.

Until that day I don’t think I’d processed how much the overt and implied messaging from those around me had truly impacted how I viewed myself. I really didn’t think that I mattered and trying to make myself matter to me involved a significant mental shift.

Since surviving my son’s first colicky few weeks I have said repeatedly that Western society does a terrible job of supporting new parents, but I hadn’t taken my own message to heart. From healthcare infrastructure to family structure, to societal expectations, we essentially give new parents a pamphlet on swimming, throw them into the deep end, and act confused when they start to drown or annoyed when they ask for a life raft.

When I asked other friends if they felt like they didn’t matter after having had a child the response was overwhelmingly in the affirmative. Many mentioned family that offered to help initially didn’t come through, or had nothing but ‘helpful advice’ about what was best for the baby, watched while they were struggling. Others mentioned how specific language made the feel like non-persons:

“I felt like a cow.  My family thought it was a joke to hand [my daughter] to me when she was hungry and say ‘this is your job now.’ Even when I had pumped milk in the fridge my mom refused to use it because she only wanted the best for her granddaughter.  What about her daughter?”  said one friend.

Another confided, “we had this big family dinner the night we brought [my son] home from the hospital. Everyone was there and it was this running gag for everyone to ask ‘oh are you still here?’ to my husband and I. Yes, I’m still here, cleaning up the dishes because everyone is cooing over the baby and I can’t sit down because I pushed another human out of my body 48 hours ago. Thanks for asking.”

The general state of Leslie's home office and living room over the last two weeks.

The general state of Leslie’s home office and living room over the last two weeks.  This is the definition of confessional blogging.

While these may seem like awkward jokes from friends, study after study after study has shown that new and expectant parents feel unsupported ,and that lack of support leads to poorer outcomes for the parent(s) and baby. Yet we as a society seem to persist in the mentality that in order for a baby to thrive the mother’s well-being has to be sacrificed.

The last two weeks has been a learning experience for me. I have been slowly re-learning how to take care of myself, while still working and caring for my family. It has not been easy and at times self-care has felt like one more thing on my to-do list. But I’ve noticed a difference.

Mentally, I’m more focused and my mood has improved. I have more energy and I no longer feel like I’ve been hit in the face with a frying pan. I’ve gone back to the gym, but I’ve traded in the treadmill and elliptical for the recumbent bike and am focusing on strengthening the muscles in my back and shoulders which will help me survive the impending third trimester.

Some things have had to be sacrificed. Our living room and basement perpetually look like they’ve been hit by a tornado. The laundry is washed, but hasn’t been folded and put away in two weeks and the stairs haven’t been vacuumed for the same amount of time. I’ve learned that these are signs that I am a good mother, actually. Because when I’m ok, it supports my family. Today, I feel better.

 

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Tragic Events, News Coverage, and Talking to Your Kids. Where to Begin?

By July 27, 2015 7 Comments
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Have you ever been driving in the car or preparing dinner and heard a TV or radio report about a terrible event that’s just happened? What was your reaction to the news story? Was your child with you? Were you worried about their reaction and wondered how you could help them and protect them?  Supporting and protecting your children around traumatic events – that’s what I want to consider with you here.

This is an interesting but distressing topic, and I’ll begin by saying how much I wish that this could only be a theoretical problem. Unfortunately,  as we all know violent crimes are happening everywhere in the world, the news always reports on them and often in detail so it’s only a matter of time until a child hears or sees it. With the recent shooting in in a theater in Lafayette, Louisiana, these concerns and challenges may be fresh in your mind. How do we explain this to our children? In our world, the best case scenario is that this will be a story about other families, families that you and your own family do not know.

In considering this topic, I thought about the many questions from families around the time of the September 11, 2001 attacks by terrorists on innocent American citizens, as well as about questions from families that have suffered a personal violent tragedy like the one in Lafayette. These are very different circumstances, but what I believe that what I have learned from these families and from my personal research can help us to help our children cope with such trauma.

All families are different and so are all the people in them, so some of my considerations will resonate for some readers, and not at all for others. In fact, this will be a successful article only if everyone likes some parts and hates others! The one universal truth is that each parent’s most honest response to a news story, given in the most gentle, respectful way possible is the response most likely to help a person of any age to begin to contemplate it. I will say that again, more summarized: gentle honesty is the best policy. This is true even if each of a child’s parents have entirely different responses to a story.

Think about this statement in relation to 9/11 – this was a terrible thing and some of us were more directly affected than others, but we were all affected. Helping a child grasp that an event of this magnitude would affect anyone enormously and everyone in different ways helps them to learn to trust their own feelings. It also helps children learn that you can’t have “wrong feelings.” Parents talking about their own feelings and reactions to this kind of event help children learn to express themselves effectively in difficult circumstances.

The same is true when a family suffers a violent event. A parent’s honest reaction, when fully understood, is what best helps a child to assimilate an event. As in any other situation, answering all of your children’s questions honestly is most helpful, even when you admit that you don’t know all the answers. A child also needs to learn as he or she grows that not knowing or understanding all of the answers is a part of the experience of being human.

Having said all of this, it is important to consider the imagery and audio that we are exposed to. Even the news media prepares us for exposure when it tells us that images or sounds may be disturbing to some viewers. Images and sound bites that are especially distressing need some filter or preface, usually in words, but, like the news media, I think you can say to a child something such like:

“The news is showing pictures of what happened, but I am still upset by them and I don’t think you should see them.”

A young child will usually be satisfied with such an explanation. An older child may be more insistent and I have found that two responses can be helpful: one is to point out that, in the same way as some movies are too distressing and disturbing, so are the images and sounds from some events. This does make sense to many older children. The other response (for others approaching adolescence who may be harder to convince), is that parents may decide to watch the images with that young person. Good things to do in this circumstance are to point out the news media’s warning concerning the disturbing aspects of the report and to watch the young person’s reaction. If you can see them becoming disturbed or upset, you can ask them if they need to stop watching or listening, and you can even shut off the report.

Children & Tragedy: The Boston Bombing (Photo Via: Salzburg Academy of Media & Global Change)

Children & Tragedy: The Boston Bombing (Photo Via: Salzburg Academy of Media & Global Change)

For some guidance, this is a link to the Motion Picture Association of America’s film rating system.  This can support you in considering when you want to allow your child to see or hear disturbing imagery or sounds.

In relation to actually watching or listening to a news report, I have found that children and youth are most interested in this when they know someone who has been directly involved. This is related to that instinct to know exactly what happened to someone, in part because it helps some of us deal with the denial that we all have when something terrible is happening. A parent and a child can be of two different minds about this and, as a parent, one has to try to be sensitive to this. Letting a child know honestly, “I didn’t watch myself (or I wish I had not watched) because I don’t want to remember this about Jane.”

If a child or teen says they have to know, and you likely know people who feel that knowing what happened is a support to those affected or harmed, then you can find a trusted person to watch this with them. After some events, like 9/11 or the Boston Marathon bombing, family resource centers are set up to help people and families deal with what is happening. For an event affecting fewer people such as the shooting in Lafayette, children’s hospitals and Community Health agencies have resources to help those of all ages who are dealing with a traumatic event.  For further resources of this nature, you can refer to the National Institute of Mental Health’s resource list here.

I have one final piece of advice, learned from a colleague many years ago: remember to look after yourself first before trying to assist your child. It’s difficult because it’s not your first instinct. But those who travel on airplanes have an easy way to be reminded. Every time you fly, the safety message tells you: remember to put on your own mask before trying to help somebody else. It’s a personal reminder to look after yourself first so that you are fully able to look after your children.

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Categories: Ages + Stages, Mental, Emotional, + Behavioral Health, School-Aged Children, Toddlers + Preschoolers

Forget Your To-Do List. What We Need is a To-Don’t List.

By June 9, 2015 1 Comment
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Here at The Scientific Parent, in addition to our trusty pack of hamsters on wheels that power our lights, there are just two of us making the blogging magic happen. Leslie and I are research junkies and writers in different phases and types of motherhood, and above all, we’re perfectionists with what we put out there on the web for all of you readers to enjoy. We take our craft seriously and we appreciate the people who join us here to read our blog.

But sometimes it’s hard for us to get all of our Scientific Parent tasks wrangled, especially when our collective and individual to-do lists seem too long to tackle and we’ve been playing dueling viral banjos for weeks, alternating between who’s sick and who’s not. We think summer colds are the worst! Though in a few months, it’ll be something else. But right now? Yeah. We wanna punch summer colds in the face! Congestion, runny noses, fevers, and active boy kiddos are what characterize our hectic lives right now.

So today I’m proposing a to-don’t list. For us, for all of you, for your friends (spread the word!), when we all need it the most.

I’ve spent time researching this and I can verify that there’s no scientific data that says that a once-in-a-blue-moon allowing of your child to eat takeout in front of the TV (in lieu of a well-balanced meal at the dinner table) will permanently damage them. Let’s be honest here. Life is nutty and the last thing our kids need is for us to get nutty. I promise they won’t end up on Maury Povich crying and needing a bootcamp dress-down if they have a Lunchable for dinner and watch SpongeBob SquarePants for the evening. So read on, bold readers, for our to-don’t list for you!

TO DON’T:

  • Don’t ignore the signs you’re clearly sick, and say it’s “nothing.” If you’re sick, keep integrity around your health and take care of yourself like you would your children when they’re sick. You’re human too, and you need to get better! Your behavior around it can also teach them self-love and self-care, and who better to learn those sick-time behaviors from than you? Plus, you’ll feel a lot better when you’re hydrated, fed, and appropriately medicated.
  • Don’t make parenting difficult when it doesn’t need to be. If you’re super tired, it’s okay to rest. We give you permission. Look at your bed! It looks amazing. Go lie down! Find a safe way for your kids to be secure and/or cared for, and take that rest, Mom or Dad. You need it too. On that note, it’s also perfectly fine to get a babysitter so you can sleep and lounge for a day if you are craving it. A rested parent is one who can be present with their kiddos. A babysitter for some non-productive time on your part will not break your kids. We mean it. Non-productive. Put down the scrubber, yo.
  • Don’t punish yourself for opting to reduce your stress once in a while – for example, letting them eat cereal for dinner, sending them to go play when you need some quiet, or allowing them to watch cartoons or play video games as a distraction. You probably have some fond memories of those days when you were little. What you don’t remember is your mom or dad keeled over on the couch, relieved you were out of their hair for a little bit. Should you do this as your automatic solution to things?
    cereal Behold, the holy grail of the To-Don't list: cereal for dinner!

    Behold, the holy grail of the To-Don’t list: cereal for dinner!

    Probably not. But it’s not going to break your kid if you skip the dinner drama that an exhausted version of you might put yourself through, and just let everyone hang out doing what they want and nibbling easy foods. Or have the kids make those oh-so-awesome discombobulated PB&Js they do so well, and watch them beam while you enjoy the fabulous dinner they made you. Plus, you’ve probably eaten unhealthier stuff out of the office vending machine and cleaned bigger messes. Who cares for a night or two? Choosing a less stressful path instead of a more stressful one can go a long way for your ability to recharge, and it shows kids what it looks like to manage stress too.

  • Don’t equate a clean house, scheduled activities, and the “best” ways to do things with you being a loving parent. Loving parents are parents who love their kids and make sure the kids know it and feel it. Parents who do things with and for their kids are parents who do things with and for their kids. They may or may not be loving – it’s not connected unless you insist it is. How you define yourself and your actions has a huge bearing on how you’re going to feel about yourself. A dirty kitchen this weekend in favor of watching movies and bumming around with the kids? Sure, why not. I promise we won’t come and judge it. If you have a dishwasher, stuff it all in there and turn it on without rinsing. It comes out dirty? Run it again! We heard that the dishwasher police are on summer break.
  • Don’t forget to say no when you need to – and don’t forget to say yes when you want to sometimes! It’s okay to say no and not make it mean anything about you as a parent or person. It’s also okay to say yes, we’re all going to bed 7 p.m. today! You deserve to be loved and cared for, and you can put both you and your kids first at the same time more often than you realize. Happy parents go a long way to making happy kids.

So with that, the two of us sniffly bloggers are signing off for the day, grabbing a bowl of cereal on each of our respective coasts and hanging out with our boys.  Our dishwashers are full of unrinsed dishes on the Pots and Pans settings and we’re okay with it. Come join us and spend a little extra time loving yourself today! There’s always another day to nail this whole Super Parent thing tomorrow.

 

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